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Winning Others to Your Way of Thinking

By: Robert Prentice

Have you ever been in the situation when you and the person you are dealing with are not seeing eye to eye on an issue? Sure you have. We all have, and it's not always an easy position to be in, is it?

If there were a way you could be more convincing in life, would you want to have the tools to be able to do that? Keep in mind that human nature is full of natural curiosity, which means that winning people to your way of thinking can be as easy one, two, three.

It's also important to remember that most people won't do anything unless they have a "want to". That is why winning someone to your way of thinking starts with creating a hunger in that person. You need to help them develop a new attitude, arousing in them such an "itch" that it begs to be scratched, all the while talking in terms of what the benefit will be to them.

To accomplish this objective you will want to capture the person's attention in a creative and innovative way. Start asking questions that you know will bring you a YES, YES response. First, ask questions that will cause the person to first feel good about him/her self; then ask a question or two that will cause them to feel a little pain. (People usually need to experience a little pain before change will occur.)

Good communication and human relations skills are absolutely vital if you are to win people and influence them for good. Draw the person in like a magnet with your smile and natural enthusiasm. Show them respect, and always be kind and gracious.

In the classroom where most of my training occurs, I apply these principles to an entire group of people. I start with gaining permission from the group to get them involved. As soon as I gain their confirmation and a resounding YES, I begin.

Then, through a series of processes and effective communications, the journey of change and winning people to my way of thinking about attitude or leadership or any of the topics I speak about, continues.

I want to clarify here, that this is not some kind of technique to manipulate, take advantage of, or harm people in any way. When I want to arouse an eager want in others to win them to my way of thinking, the goal is always to assure that I am doing everything in my power to cause the group to win and each individual to have the success that they deserve.

I have found that when used correctly, the tools I have shared here with you, will bring out the best in people and aid them in accomplishing their goals, dreams and desires.

If you are a salesperson, apply this principle with your prospective customers. If you are a leader you can practice on your employees. If you are a parent it works great with the kids. Just make sure there are no losers in the proposition.

Remember your goal is not only to win someone to your way of thinking, but to gain a win-win situation for everyone involved.

The Eagle

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THE MOST POWERFUL WAY TO TALK TO YOURSELF

By: Adam Kahn

THERE ARE MANY DIFFERENT possible ways to talk to yourself. One way is to reassure yourself. For example, before a party you might be feeling a little nervous so you tell yourself, "It's going to be fine. It'll turn out okay."

Another way to talk to yourself is to give yourself advice or instruction. For example, "At the party, focus on drawing people out and getting them to talk about themselves."

Another possible way to talk to yourself is to put yourself down. "I look like hell. I'm a loser."

Or you could ask yourself a question. On your way to the party, you could ask yourself, "What can I do tonight that would make it genuinely fun?"

Of all the possible ways to talk to yourself, asking yourself a question is the most powerful. Questions direct your mind and set trains of thought into motion. That's what makes them so powerful. Questions are generative. They generate thought. And because they are so powerful it really makes a difference to pay attention to the questions you ask yourself and to ask yourself good questions.

Asking yourself a bad question before a party, for instance, can create excessive anxiety and a negative experience. For example, "What if I can't think of anything to say? What if I embarrass myself? What if I'm a loser for the rest of my life and I never get married and live alone and shunned by the world?" The what-if questions are creating a chain of anxious thoughts and images that produce feelings of anxiety. With thoughts like these running through your mind, you arrive at the party feeling nervous and withdrawn. You can't think of anything pleasant to say (because your own anxious thoughts are occupying your mind) and you embarrass yourself with your own awkwardness. Keep this up and your dire predictions of a lonely life could come true — not because you are stupid or ugly or have character flaw, but merely because you never paid attention to the questions you asked yourself, and you never tried to ask yourself high-quality questions.

What makes a good question? That's the obvious next question, isn't it? What makes a question a good question? The answer is simple. A high-quality question has a good result. It focuses your attention on something that makes you effective. It directs your mind to something that helps you successfully handle the situation. A question is good if it leads to a good result.

Bad question: What if they don't like me?
Good question: What is something I could do right now that would make me more likable? Bad question: What if I fail to accomplish my goal?
Good question: What's the most important thing I could do to make sure I accomplish my goal?

A high-quality question is one that produces an end-result you desire. Check in on the questions you ask yourself (you'll have to pay attention because your thoughts are happening automatically much of the time) and then ask this question: "What is the result of asking myself that question?"

If the result isn't good, ask yourself, "What result do I want?" And when you decide on a result, ask yourself, "What question can I ponder that would help me achieve that result?" Don't settle for the first thing that pops into your head! Think about it. Make a list. Force yourself to come up with ten good possible questions.

Then choose the best question — the one that will produce the best result — and practice asking yourself that question. Literally practice. Ask that question many times. Get used to asking it. Make it familiar and comfortable and automatic.

There are certain times when it would help to ask yourself that question. Practice asking that question at those times.

For example, when Katie is preparing for an interview, she doesn't want to obsess about her automatic questions, "What if they don't want me?" and "What if I make a fool of myself in the interview?" She is fully aware that those questions don't put her in the best frame of mind to have a successful interview.

She decides that a good question to ponder is, "How can I help these people?" That will put her in just the right attitude for an interview. That's a question that will produce a good result. So while she is getting dressed for the interview, she asks herself that question. She ponders it. When her mind wanders, she comes back to that question. And in the car, on the way to the interview, she thinks about it some more, trying to think of ways she can help her future employers. Whenever her mind drifts to her worries, she asks herself, "Yes, but how can I help these people?" And even walking into the interview, she is wondering how she can help them.

What do you think would be the difference between Katie sitting down for an interview wondering, "What if they don't want me?" versus sitting down wondering, "How can I help these people?" What kind of difference would she have in attitude? In her demeanor? In her level of stress hormones? In her focus — outward focus versus inward focus? I think you can see it would be a large and visibly obvious difference. The second question would make her more effective in the interview. The second question is more likely to lead to a good result.

Asking yourself a good question is a very powerful tool. What great things do you think it can help you achieve? Good question.

Ask yourself questions that lead to good results.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR:

Adam Khan is the creator of www.youmeworks.com. He also blogs at crushpessimism.com and moodraiser.com, and he's the author of the books, Self-Help Stuff That Works and Principles For Personal Growth (now being used as a textbook for a college course in San Diego, which you can take online.)

Adam has been published in Prevention Magazine, Cosmopolitan, Body Bulletin, Your Personal Best Newsletter, Wisdom, Think and Grow Rich Newsletter, the Success Strategies newsletter, and he was a regular columnist for At Your Best (a Rodale Press publication) for seven years where his monthly column was voted the readers’ favorite. He's had his work reprinted all over the Internet and in others' books all over the world. You can contact him at adam@youmeworks.com.

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Check Up From the Neck Up

By: Robert Prentice

I am firmly convinced that 99.9% of everything in life boils down to our attitude. That's why I believe that every day we should do what I call a "check up from the neck up" to discern what our attitude is communicating to others around us. If what we discover is a negative attitude, then of course, an adjustment is obviously necessary.

Sometimes other people-often those closest to us-may bring to our attention exactly what our attitude is speaking. I know for a fact that if someone is spewing out a bunch of negativity, chances are pretty good they have a negative thought life. And the reverse is also true: If a person goes around espousing positive bits of information, chances are pretty good they have a positive thought life. Whatever one thinks and believes will come out in their words, thoughts, and actions.

We human beings have been so wonderfully created, and have been given such a marvelous capability to change our attitudes, as an act of our will. We all have the power to determine what our own attitudes will be in any given situation. Even when surrounded by people with bad attitudes, we can choose not to let their negativity affect us. We can determine to respond in a positive way, even in the most negative of circumstances. It takes only an instant to shift an attitude, and we can if we have the want-to. Why would we ever choose to live in the muck, when we have such an incredible gift at our disposal?

My encouragement for you today is to stop for a moment and do a quick assessment-a "check up from the neck up." Listen to the way you speak to others, and notice the way they respond to you. How is that attitude of yours? Are you an encourager, or a person who tends to tears others down every chance you get? Do you speak positive things about life and other people or just grumble and complain all the time? Are you generally enthusiastic and filled with joy, or gloomy and pessimistic?

If you don't like the answers you come up with, you'd better get that attitude of yours adjusted right away. Don't delay! But don't stop there! Do a "check up from the neck up" every day. In fact, do it as many times a day as is necessary, because, when it's all said and done, it all really does boil down to attitude! to help you. You'll both be glad you did!

The Eagle

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Give Your Best To The Task At Hand

By: Josh Hinds

Starting today commit to giving your absolute best to every assignment which comes your way. Rather than seeing things as a burden or some menial task remind yourself that each is preparing you for the eventual larger opportunities which lay in store for you.

To paraphrase business philosopher, author, and lecturer Jim Rohn, you can't just start at the top, it's as though life is making sure you can handle the smaller tasks that are required of you, before you’re given the responsibility of having to deal with the bigger ones.

Friend, if you can prove you can work through the smaller things that are asked of you, before you know it, you'll attract greater opportunity, along with the greater rewards that life affords those which go along with being able to do so.

Make no mistake, those seemingly small inconsequential challenges that vie for your attention are there to prepare you for future opportunities -- provided you're willing to see them as such. That's a choice I hope you'll make every day.

It's your life, LIVE BIG!

The Eagle

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